Sometimes being single can be great fun, you have your own independence and can come and go when you please, do what you want to do, when you want to and you don’t have to think about anything else other than your needs. But, there comes a moment when you really want to share your life with an important other and have someone to talk to in the evenings, someone to turn to and someone to share pillow talk with. If you have been single for some time, you may be wondering just where you go to meet the man of your dreams and how to ensnare that perfect other once you have found him.
The first thing that you need to do is to change your current behaviours in a social sense and to get out into the big wide world and experience new events and hopefully meet new people. If your current social circle is fairly small, it needs to expand. Take a look around you to see what events are on, there are probably a lot more than you think including meal clubs, theatre trips, book clubs etc. You may have a local walking group or bird-watching group if you like outdoor pursuits or enrol on a college course and make new friends whilst you learn. There are loads of opportunities to meet others if you really want to and it pays to find someone with some similar interests.
Getting out and about on your own can be daunting but you have to learn to fake a sense of bravado. Nothing is as sexy as a self-assured woman and you will find that you gradually grow in confidence as you expand your horizons. Plus as you live and breathe being this self-assured being, it will start to become second nature to you too.
Develop a sense of confidence that allows you to speak out and say what’s on your mind. Don’t fall into the trap of being desperate and saying everything that you think will please the guy. Men like women who are gutsy (and this doesn’t mean argumentative) and they don’t want a woman who is a complete doormat, it’s not exciting and definitely not sexy.
The good thing about meeting others who share similar interests is that you immediately have fun stuff to talk about and there is no scratching of the head as you ponder what on earth to talk about next. The other benefit of going out on a date with someone who has similar interests is that you don’t have to fake interest and smile politely; you can become an animated part of the conversation.
Always retain your sense of independence even if it is hard because you may like any new man a lot and want to be a part of his life but what may have attracted him to you is your sense of independence and free spirit and if you suddenly turn into a clingy woman, you will soon have him recoiling. Always be true to yourself and tell him if you like him, but don’t pour out your whole life story and sit sobbing over a gin and tonic, instead, tell him about the person you are trying to be and how you want to make your life a valued one. Positive thinking is a very attractive quality to have.
If you find that you have joined all of your local clubs and there is not one person in sight who might have some affinity with you, then there is always Internet dating to fall back on. At least this way you can meet people outside of your local area and after all, who said love had to exist on your doorstep. Internet dating might be all about love but it can also bring some exciting benefits in the way of extra good friends, so even if a date doesn’t work out romantically, you may well be opening up the possibility of really expanding your social life geographically too.