We all want to find that special someone and forge a perfect relationship but sadly, traditional dating doesn’t always afford us the best opportunities to meet others or produce the best results. It makes sense that we try every option available to us in the hopes that we might encounter that perfect partner. Online dating enables us to talk to many more potential candidates from the safety of our computers and to pick and choose those people who meet any pre-set criteria and, let’s face it, using this method; it enables us to meet many more people in a much shorter space of time.
It’s easy to make mistakes though en-route to any fabulous new relationship because if I’m honest, there are pitfalls in every type of romantic search, but the following dating tips will help you to cast your line out into the internet ether, dangle that hook and ensnare the person of your dreams.
Firstly, it’s important to choose the right dating site. Choose one that appeals to you on all levels. The right type of members, positive feedback from others and the right monthly fees that is affordable on a personal level. If your previous dating experiences are a long time ago, just make sure that you don’t stumble upon the type of dating site that you might prefer not to be involved in. There are online dating sites for everyone but some can be explicit or simply erotic and if that’s what you like then great, but do your homework before signing up and paying out for any membership fees. If the dating site of your choice does a free trial period, even better, make the most of it by getting your profile set up quickly and start contacting people. By the end of the trial period you will know whether it’s the dating site for you.
Setting up a profile that reflects the real you is a really important second step. You need to ensure that you manage to extol all of your good points so that your personality almost leaps off the profile page. It’s vital that you take your time with your profile and really list the type of person that you are looking to meet; equally important is stating your intentions. Do you want just a casual relationship? Are you just looking for friendship? Perhaps you would like a more intimate relationship with no strings or maybe you would like a full-blown relationship that has the potential to grow? Whatever your requirements, it’s good to let everyone know about them. There is nothing worse than stating that you want a serious relationship when really something casual would suit you more. There is no point misleading others, reason being? You are more likely to find the right person for you if you tell people what you want and of course, why waste your time or theirs?
When you first make contact with others, you might be over enthusiastic in your approach. After all, it’s great fun to have lots of attention from as many admirers as you have the time to talk to. Having said that, it can be tiring to keep up with the never ending flow of emails that go back and forth. You might also forget what you have discussed with each one, and that could be awkward! So the third tip is to bring your virtual relationship to life by being warm, friendly and fun. Never, ever be too pushy or demanding or expect your relationship to progress too fast and always, always remember what you have said to each romantic interest.
The fourth tip on the list is to make sure that you do consider the possibility that your potential date could be lying. As horrible a thought as that might be, it does happen. This could be anything from having an out- of- date photo, to lying about their business, personality or even their marital status. You will never truly know someone until you meet them and even then, it can be difficult to tell especially if they are a practiced charmer but at least you will have fun finding out. Just keep it in your mind that although you might be honest and open about what you want, it doesn’t mean that others are too.
Finally point number five is to ensure that you never meet someone in a quiet or lonely place. There is safety in numbers and at the end of the day; you don’t know really what this person is like. Many undesirables lurk behind the safety of a virtual environment so if you meet in a public place, at least you will be relatively safe. Never get into someone’s car or go to their home, take things slowly just until you know each other a little bit more. The most important thing that you, like all the other Internet daters can do, are to trust your instincts. If it feels wrong, then just don’t do it.
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