There comes a point when you have kissed so many frogs that you finally give up searching for your prince. You might even start imagining that single life is yours for keeps and with that you might experience a kind of acceptance even if there is a part of you that desperately wants to meet someone nice and kind and loving.
If you look around you and find that most of your friends are now safely attached and possibly heading straight to the altar, you might find that you feel well and truly left behind. It’s a miserable feeling but don’t panic, it will be short-lived, there will be a perfect partner for you out there, it’s just a case of opening yourself up to meeting someone special.
So what stops you from attracting or keeping that perfect mate? Maybe you are hanging on to old insecurities and you are hugging emotional issues inwardly and not letting anyone close. If you have previously been hurt, it can take some time to let those emotional scars heal so that you feel ready to love and to be loved again.
Maybe it is time now to identify all of the things that have been holding you back emotionally. Do you feel guilty that you betrayed someone? Do you feel hurt because you were the one who was betrayed? Did you trust implicitly and have had your trust ground to pieces? Did your jealousy drive your partner away? Do you have secrets that threatened your relationship or are there unaddressed problems from your childhood? It’s time now to resolve any issues or fears that are buried because if you still hold onto all of these hurtful things, you will be unable to move forward.
If you are still in love with your ex, but there is no chance that the two of you will ever be able to rekindle your romance or to make it work, then perhaps it’s now time to say goodbye emotionally and cut those ties for good. After all, if you still hanker for a past love, how can you possibly meet someone new and welcome them into your life? You may not realise it but it’s possible that you have built up emotional brick walls around you and it’s going to take someone with steely reserve to get through to the real you.
Looking back and thinking about what went wrong, may in fact help you to move on and bring a sense of closure to the past but do not start over-analysing or start playing the blame game. At this stage, it will not do anyone any good. If you were jealous, tearful, accusing or too intense, then maybe there is a lesson to be learned but again these are issues that need to be resolved before you can move on. Don’t expect a new partner to smooth out all of these emotional wrinkles for you. On the other hand, if your former partner was a liar and a cheat, and it was a hurtful experience, then the only regret you should have, is not dumping them a whole lot quicker.
Learning to love the person you are is so important. It may be a difficult thing to do because in general people are so critical of themselves and if you are still bruised from a former relationship, then it’s understandable that you experience self-doubts. But make today the time to move on with your life. Think about all of the good qualities that you have, treat yourself to something nice, revamp your image, and be kind to yourself. Understand that you are a good person and that you deserve to have someone loving in your life.
It’s time to dump the emotional baggage and strip away any layers of fear. If you can do this, you can start thinking about the next person that you meet and instead of putting up barriers, you can let them enter and enable them to see you, the real you.
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