Rumor has it that the bad guys always get their girl but is that really true? If you think back over your dating history, you might find that you have had your fair share of hot looking but romantically dangerous men who may led you a right old game before it all ended so what is it about the bad boys that make them have so much appeal?
To start off with, the bad boy is often blessed with perfect looks. Eyes that seem to see right through you into your soul, perfect teeth, and a smile that sends you into seventh heaven and then some and what about that chiseled torso and those muscular long legs? Bad guys pick nice girls. They don’t want someone who plays the game the way that they do, they want a woman who they can mould to suit their needs. Bad girls play dangerous too and that doesn’t appeal.
The bad guy stands out from the crowd, not just in the looks department but because he has charisma, charm and is, well, just different from the other guys. The bad guy often strays from the straight and narrow, not necessarily getting into trouble but meandering on the edge. He can be compulsive, strong-minded and like life in the fast lane.
But do we give out mixed signals to these bad guys that we like it when they act like the ‘stereotypical bad guy’? After all, men are often told that they need to be strong for women, tough and don’t we all like a bit of hero worship? Let’s be honest, both women and men are shallow in that we are attracted to those who have a nice face and a great body. Would the bad guy be quite so successful if he was pit ugly in our eyes? This isn’t to say that looks are everything, but looks count if we are going to be attracted to someone initially and the proverbial bad guy can be the ultimate tease.
We want to change him, mould him into the man who falls madly in love and who would do anything for us, it might be an old romantic cliché but deep down, most women are romantic and do want to experience those moments of being swept off of their feet. The problem is that these so called bad guys are self-assured and their natural confidence and style is an attractive quality. Importantly, they don’t really seem to care what others think. So when the nice girl throws her lot into the romantic ring with him, all she sees is the potential exciting roller-coaster of a ride and the opportunity to make the bad guy fall in love. Raw attraction and a great deal of natural sex appeal can be devastating weapons, no wonder women succumb at least one time in their romantic lives.
But women really need to think about what they want in life. If you want romance, tenderness and a caring and sensitive man, the bad guy isn’t really going to give you that. But on the other hand, if you are in the mood for some fun, with your local predatory Romeo, then go for it, providing your reasons are sound and they are not a mask for some deeper feelings lurking beneath.
Of course even the bad guys’ fall in love eventually but that could be years ahead when they are starting to get fed up of their roaming ways or when their looks start to fail, whichever happens first. Do you really want to hang around just to see whether the bad guy can give you more chemistry than the proverbial guy next door type?
Flirting is great with a bad guy but just remember that for most, available women are a necessary and easy commodity. The bad guy has a conveyor belt syndrome, when one it’s over with one woman, there is always another to take her place. Don’t be next on the list, instead choose someone who is strong minded, yet caring and who isn’t afraid to put you and only you first.